Nouwen Then: To Know the Pain

Nouwen Then: To Know the Pain

The first response to our brokenness is to face it squarely and befriend it. This may seem quite unnatural. Our first, most spontaneous response to pain and suffering is to avoid it, to keep it at arm's length; to ignore, circumvent, or deny it. Sufferingbe it physical, mental, or emotionalis almost always experienced as an unwelcome intrusion into our lives, something that should not be there. It is difficult, if not impossible, to see anything positive in suffering; it must be avoided at all costs. 
When this is, indeed, our spontaneous attitude toward our brokenness, it is no surprise that befriending it seems, at first, masochistic. Still, my own pain in life has taught me that the first step to healing is not a step away from the pain, but a step toward it. Yes, we have to find the courage to embrace our own brokenness, to make our most feared enemy into a friend, and to claim it as an intimate companion. I am convinced that healing is often so difficult because we don't want to know the pain.

Henri Nouwen, Life of the Beloved, from the chapter called "Broken"  


Nouwen Then: Suffering Toward Joy

Nouwen Then: Suffering Toward Joy

Nouwen Then: Suffering, Personally

Nouwen Then: Suffering, Personally