Nouwen Then: Suffering, Personally
The way I am broken tells you something unique about me. The way you are broken tells me something unique about you. I am deeply convinced that each human being suffers in a way no other human being suffers. No doubt, we can make comparisons; we can talk about more or less suffering, but, in the final analysis, your pain and my pain are so deeply personal that comparing them can bring scarcely any consolation or comfort. In fact, I am more grateful for a person who can acknowledge that I am very alone in my pain than for someone who tries to tell me that there are many others who have a similar or a worse pain.
Henri Nouwen, Life of the Beloved, from the chapter called "Broken"